Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Aparrently not always.

Here are the top 10 reasons why men cheat.

1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.

3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.

4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.

5. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

6. Your sex life sucks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.

7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex?

8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.

9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.

10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.

Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch.

Stephany Alexander is a relationship expert and CEO/Founder of WomanSavers.com - The World’s Largest Database Rating Men. She holds a degree in Communications and is the author of the book Sex, Lies and the Internet.

DON’T SUFFOCATE YOUR MAN: I don’t mean he should go out to the pub every night without you as this would not be fair to you, but men (and women) do need a certain amount of freedom.

ALWAYS KEEP A LITTLE OF YOURSELF BACK: A certain element of mystery keeps it fresh and is challenging. Let him have enough that he’s secure, but not too much that you appear boring or too available!

TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM AT LEAST ONCE A DAY: Men really are big babies on the whole, and it makes them feel special.

BODILY FUNCTIONS ARE A DEFINITE TURN-OFF: Passing wind and belching are very unattractive, and going to the toilet in front of your man really is not necessary. Sharing should not extend to these habits!

DON’T LET YOURSELF GO: This has nothing to do with weight or size - lets face it we come in all packages and who determines what’s sexy and what’s not. I’m talking about keeping yourself and your hair clean and presentable. This will not only make you feel better about yourself, but also shows that you still care enough to be bothered. You don’t have to get all tarted up around the house, just make an effort to look nice and fresh.

BE SPONTANEOUS: Don’t be afraid to try something new and exiting - find out your mans innermost sexual fantasies and surprise him - he’ll love it and you’ll probably enjoy it too. This really helps to keep things spicy.

BUY SOME REALLY SEXY LINGERIE: It will make you feel hot and sexy, and your man will find it irresistible! There are so many sexy and fun styles available on the market right now you’ll be spoilt for choice. Look at some lingerie websites with your man - you can have fun choosing it together without subjecting him to the embarrassment of high street shops.

BE GOOD FRIENDS: Listen to each other, have fun and laugh a lot.

KEEP THE MOANING TO A MINIMUM: Moaning really infuriates men so if you have to, moan to your best friend instead.

SHOW AN INTEREST IN HIS HOBBIES: You don’t have to take them up yourself, just appear to be interested!

Many thanks for reading - now go forth, apply my rules, and keep your man interested!! Or for those of you trying to get rid of him - just do the opposite!!
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Every day it’s a constant barrage of noise. All of us, apparently, have to make some big changes-and now—or else you’ll never get a date again. All for 3 easy payments of $49.95.

Oh, come on. Are we really this gullible?

Lately I’ve been paying attention to media, especially advertising, and realizing more than ever how we are getting played. Think about it. Virtually everything communicated to us in the commercial media is designed to sell a product, further a cause, etc. Extraordinarily often, this plays upon our feelings of worthiness to attract “hotties”. Right?

One of my favorite recent commercials is the one where the guy and girl make eye contact while on stopped streetcars headed in opposite directions. Quickly the guy springs up to get off his ride and hopefully catch the other one so he can meet the woman. Unsuccessful…he is dejected when both streetcars leave, only to find that the woman had done the same thing (!) There they are standing across from each other, and it’s presumably ‘on’. What a great commercial, and what a picture perfect example of a “romantic moment”. Except for one curious thing…it’s for a pair of guys pants. How in the world did the pants help him in the all-important quest to attract the girl? He was looking out a streetcar window!

Where this conversation gets more personal is when it involves things we are perceived to have to change in order to get someone to be attracted to us at all. For guys, the easy target has historically been baldness, although nowadays penis size seems to be gaining momentum (that doesn’t sound quite right…but you know what I mean). The latter is another whole topic, so let’s talk about what it’s like for bald guys. Bald guys have been generally trained by media to be horrified of going bald. Bald guys are remembered as ridiculed in sitcoms and in movies. Bald guys are told no women are interested in a guy without hair, and that they should spend all the money it takes to change it.

Now, I happen to have plenty of hair on my head, so I’m an unbiased opinion here. Judging from informal conversations with numerous women, and from what I’ve seen on online profiles, I think far fewer women are turned off by a receding hairline-or even flat-out baldness-than these commercials would like for us to believe. You can even go to www.hotornot.com and see the kind of objective ratings guys get for yourself. The numbers don’t lie. The website is not called www.hotorbald.com (check the link-nope).

The ladies are fed even more crazy stuff. I saw a mascara ad several years ago where the waiter made a Freudian slip and asked the lady if she wanted something or other to go with her “lashes”. What a wakeup call that was to watch. Do you think us guys are really going around paying that much attention to your lashes? We may indirectly notice how long lashes positively affect a woman’s attractiveness, but really–I assure you–we aren’t obsessing over her eyelashes.

Better example: fashion. Most of us guys, again not a general statement but far more than you are led to believe, really think a woman looks as great in a sweatshirt, sweatpants and ankle sox as she did in that Carolina Herrera gown last night. Really. Believe it. In fact, the “girl next door” thing in general rules with many, many guys.

Don’t we all appreciate someone real? This goes for plastic surgery, also. Informal surveys of my male friends show that we really don’t all go for a large breast size. It’s true. Believe that also. I can count on both hands the number of guys I know who appreciate women with surgically altered bust lines. How many times have you seen someone who has had a facelift, and immediately thought he or she would have been better off leaving it alone?

And the clincher? News flash: Despite everything you’ve heard, seen, and have had played before your eyes…(are you sitting down for this?)…A LOT of guys don’t prefer skinny women. In fact, some of us out here don’t even have a direct preference when it comes to the subject matter of this paragraph or the preceding one. Now, extremism is one thing, and if someone is affected as such s/he should get that handled for health and lifestyle reasons. But for the most part, who a woman is-overall-is going to affect the level of attraction for a guy.

And this thought process appears to apply to both men and women. I’ve heard lots of women talk about a guy with some “meat on his bones” instead of washboard abs (can’t have both). And guess what? Likewise, plenty of guys like curvier women. More guys may think this way than actually will admit publicly, also-likely because of what the media has taught us is attractive. Do we all have “bad taste”? That’s subjective-as it should be.

Further, an interesting story was done that showed that men will predictably be attracted to a 7/10 ratio between waist and hips, which also happens to be a good scientific quotient for indicating female fertility, it seems. OK, so why don’t all women know this? Because you can’t do anything about it. You can’t “spot reduce”. There are no products to sell, so the media has no interest in telling you this sort of thing.

But you have the ability to lose weight generally-if you want to. And you can put on make up, and hair “products” and different clothes. Darn skippy. And you hear about that all the time. Why? Because there’s money in making people feel insecure. And once the ball is rolling, it’s a financial bonanza. It’s this way in part because of the basic message, and in larger part, I’ve come to believe, because one can never do enough. In all actuality it doesn’t necessarily get attraction to happen. In fact, the cumulative effect can actually backfire, causing less attraction because of the perceived plasticism or, worse, the insecurity.

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