According to your engagement quality, your sex activity may be a short work, a sad work, or a work of art. And your lover will be hopeful, desperate, or happy! So what is the prime requirement of a great sex performance? Your partner’s satisfaction and happiness, nothing else!!

Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about men’s early ejaculations and women’s orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: It’s normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldn’t have an orgasm! But if you think for a second, surprisingly, you won’t see any relation between these two events. Because a man, if not a boor, will provide his woman achieve her orgasm before his ejaculation.

The next popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ? What is the normal size? How thick and long can it be at the maximum? How small is acceptable for successful lovemaking?

Every man’s genital is different as his finger print and in a happy relationship the role of the penis size is not important. At least you don’t have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger or larger! Even with a huge organ a man’s chance is very limited to make his woman achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover, and doesn’t know proper sex techniques, and most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasures.

Even a man who has a miniscule dick can be a perfect lover if he’ll learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner instead of being paranoiacly distressed. What ever it is your penis size is normal, and this is your body, love it and try to use it more properly, more creatively and with more love and care. Learn how to use effective foreplay and arousal techniques, how to kiss and caress properly, and maybe you won’t need a penis to make her reach the climax!

Believe me, every woman desires and prefers such a talented lover instead of a big dick entering a few times into their vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened… naturally! Having a small organ is not guilt, and if he knows his body and has developed many practical solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover, a great chance for women!

What about early ejaculations? This, also, is not a crime and if the man hasn’t an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort and techniques. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off don’t make any difference in their sex life! This may be true for them but surely not for the women!

Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two sexes. Men, by their nature, want to thrust their penis into a warm and slippery hole when erected and squirt in, but women, on the contrary, need a prior preparation, foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.

Further, one woman can’t have orgasm without a specific position, the other woman will desire another position, or request clitoris stimulation besides penis thrusting… Many fatiguing services asked from men! And if a serious and passionate relationship doesn’t exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed.

Is it a natural error, an innate lack of harmony between men and women? If so what was the secret of great womanizers like Don Juan, Ximen Qing, Giacomo Casanova…

Let see some different type of early comers:

Type A: The worst! He doesn’t even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesn’t care anything else! Woman’s pleasures and orgasm! What is that? He hasn’t heard anything about woman’s orgasm!

Type B: The opportunist! He knows about woman’s orgasm but act like he doesn’t know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference between type A is if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like “ah” he will suppose that she reached an orgasm, but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!

Type C: The lazy with crocodile tears! He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is ashamed or can’t find the time to go! As foreplay he kisses and caresses her a little but he can’t wait more and comes off. Sometimes he can’t even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad, but life goes on!

Type D: The Lover! He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partner’s orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a good sexual massage, or an intense stimulation as she likes, or oral love, and bring her to orgasm. Then he starts to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are both relaxed and happy!

That means, if a man is refined, elegant, understanding, clever… a GENTLEMAN, the early ejaculation is not an important issue on the way to happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder, and get a treatment which is not very hard. But in the meantime he will be kind and not selfish, and will give her ultimate pleasures to achieve her orgasm!

An absolutely good sex for a woman is an average dick size, a foreplay at length with all stimulation techniques that she likes, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures… not insisting on what you want, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.

Remember that if she has achieved one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientation.

Finally, what is her responsibility for a harmonious and happy sexual relationship?

Women must talk and describe what they need or want clearly. Of course, talking to the boors will not produce a positive result instantly but intelligent and responsible men will understand and provide what you need. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and go to sleep… talk to your lover and kindly explain your wishes, if not you will lose your sexual desires in the time, and you won’t even like to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!

Amy Guven is a founder partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the writer of “Amy’s Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood”. Including all vital sex tips, techniques, pro methods, and being highly successful as a reference book, Amy’s Better Sex & Relationships Tutorial aims to help people have a better life and relationships worldwide.

The infamous g spot. Full of history and commonly known as the mysterious and elusive phenomena which delivers the most intense orgasm known to women, the g spot is
nothing short of amazing, and it’s not as complex or as hard to find as you may believe. The g spot is actually quite easy to find if you know what you’re looking for. Find it and you will give your partner an unforgettable experience of immense sexual pleasure. Pleasuring a women g spot can be the key to an amazing sexual relationship.

A Basic Woman’s Anatomy

The location of the g spot (specifically the Grafenberg spot named after the German doctor who first found it and documented it) is inside the woman’s vagina, just behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra.

The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.

Once inside the vagina, and using a well-lubricated finger as a probe, proceed about 4 inches straight in. Do not go too far inside the vagina, as you will come to the cervix, which is the mouth of the uterus. You have passed the g-spot if you are already there. Put pressure on the top wall of the vagina (the top borders the bladder, and the bottom borders the rectum) and you will feel some tissue that is somewhat rougher than the tissue around it. Therein lies the g-spot, or most of it. A nice way to reach this area and to stimulate the g spot, is to sort of curl your fingers back towards you, as to imitate a come here motion. This is also a very good technique during cunnilingus, and has a very positive effect on a woman’s ability to orgasm and re-orgasm in quick succession.

G-Spot Stimulation

Pleasuring a women’s g spot doesn’t have to be an intimidating task. If you have fingers, or an average penis, and can hold an erection, you can stimulate the g-spot and bring your lady partner to a profound orgasm.

There isn’t one best position to hit the g spot but there are a lot of great positions you can use to stimulate the g spot and it may take a few tries to conquer them but if you experiment and have fun you will find something you love. Here are a few g spot stimulating positions we recommend.

In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you keep an open mind and communicate. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.

#1 - With the man sitting on the edge of a bed or sofa, and a woman mounted on top of him, with her legs wrapped around his back, adapt the depth of the penis in the vagina to near the g spot. No thrusting is necessary or required here. Just maintain the erection, press as hard as you can from the pelvic area, so the penis puts pressure on the g-spot. The rest is all automatic from the female, and soon she will arrive at a deep and satisfying orgasm. This position also stimulates the woman’s clitoris, and this double stimulation brings about this great female orgasm.

#2 - There’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.

As you are on top, experiment with what feels best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feels good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do, just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better. This can be quite tiring so you can try to use a few pillows to angle your hips, or even better, you can enjoy something called the wedge, which is a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work. I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference.

#3 - One of our favorite g spot positions is doggy style. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal and sexy about taking or being taken from behind. In this position men can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that work best for you. However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind). For the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher. This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best. The liberator shape - the wedge - works amazingly in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.

#4 - Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman’s Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)

Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table. Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)

Leila Gabrielle is the Sexual Expert and Sex Toy Guru for Sensual Seductions. See more great articles and better sex advice from Leila at Sensual Seductions. Anticipate fulfilling your sexual needs and desires, while you increase your health and sexual well being!

As many as 30% of women suffer from low libido and while drug companies want to use their products to increase female sexual wellness there is a simple 5 step natural solution that can and will help.

Let’s look at a 5 point plan to increase female libido and sexual wellness.

1. Fish Oil

We all know its good for us anyway, and the good news is it is also a great boost for flagging libido.

Why?

Quite simply it contains Eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) both these can boost the levels of the feel good chemical in the brain – Dopamine.

Dopamine helps us increase the emotions of anticipation and desire and is very effective in reviving libido.

Furthermore, fish oil can also improve overall blood flow which is critical in female libido.

Recommended levels are 1,700 mgs of EPA and 1,500 mgs DHA daily.

This is a lot and you should rely on a supplement as well as eating oily fish such as:

Salmon, mackerel and sardines.

Good news for girls is that chocolate is also great at increasing dopamine!

A few squares a day should be eaten – choose a brand with at least 70% cocoa solids.

2. Serotonin levels don’t overdo them

Cigarettes, coffee and starch produce it. While we need serotonin as it helps us feel alert, helps us deal with stress etc - it is not a relaxant and therefore you may feel to hyper for sex.

Avoiding or cutting down on the above foods will keep levels in balance and will mean that you will feel relaxed enough for sex.

3. Testosterone

You need this!

It has been shown that it can be suppressed by the hormone – globulin so it is important not to have too much of this.

To keep levels down take the minerals of zinc and magnesium. Up to 10mgs of zinc and 300 mgs of magnesium are enough.

Both these minerals will boost testosterone and keep globulin at bay.

4. Eat well

Increase levels of protein to 30% daily - to boost testosterone in association with the above mineral supplements.

Fat should be healthy like fish oil and mono saturated use olive oil in your cooking, eat healthy oily fish and eat lean meat.

Then get good carbohydrates to make up the rest of your diet. Keep them natural:

Avoid white bread and sugary and starchy foods – This will keep testosterone levels up and serotonin levels down to healthy levels.

Make sure you have a least five portions of vegetables per day, to provide energy and prevent Serotonin spikes.

5. Take healthy women’s supplements

Good herbs to take for all round women’s health are:

Dong Quai and Saw palmetto.

You should also take evening primrose oil.

The three supplements above are great for all round women’s health and also have an influence on women’s sexual wellness as well.

Throw in some regular exercise and if you are generally fit and healthy, watch libido and overall sexual wellness increase.

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