“There is a vast range of sex toys today. Its available for both the sexes i.e. male & female with significant multiplicity in its type. The Purpose Of Sex Toys Sex toys can help you get an erection or, if you are a female, arouse your genitals or just help in elevate your pleasure during the act. They can also help you enjoy sex with different variations thus never letting you get bored of it. The best thing about them is they can help people having difficulty enjoying sex. Its not only about the variety they provide to the act its about the zing they add to your relationships which you should look at. The usual expectation is that a sex toy provides direct stimulation of the genitals in foreplay and/or during sexual intercourse or as a means to obtain orgasm through only the stimulation provided by the sex toy. Sex toys - Kinds Vibrating Sex Toys The most common of the lot is the vibrating sex toys which provide arousal of the genitals through vibration. They can either be used to arouse the clitoris or the male genitalia. Most of them are in the shape of a fatter pencil and are battery operated. But some of them come with an adaptor attached to them with a wire. They have a small motor inside them which when rotates provides the vibration. It has no rocket science involved with it but talking about its use, it comes very handy. some of them have a controller which controls the power of the vibration. The strength of vibration depends on your personal taste and mood.
There is no optimum strength which you should switch to. At various stage of your sexual experience, you may feel like changing the strength. It also depends on which piece of your body part you are arousing. The recent vibrators are more interesting to look at. They provide a range of control for you starting from the speed/strength control of the vibration to surges & power pulses. The Effectiveness of these vibrators is without doubt Butterfly stimulators & vibrating penis rings are some of the other types of vibrators available in the market. Other Powered Sex Toys The ways to provide stimulation can be many. There are some kinds which change shapes or moves back and forth by use of an electric motor. Mostly it’s the air pumps that motorize the back & forth movements. The various types of movements may be interesting to look at. Some of them are mechanical licking tongues, vibrators that ‘penetrate’ the vagina and mouth simulators to give a man a ‘blow job’. Have you heard of the expensive sex toys such as the thrusting & vibrating dildos? They do exist but on larger an much expensive scale. Combination Sex Toys Whatever we have discussed above is also available in one sex toy in a combination. The commonest of them all is the rabbit style which uses movement & thrusting motion to arouse the clitoris or the vagina. Adding textures to the surface of a sex toy for that extra pleasure is not uncommon at all. Some of them have spikes while others have ridges on the surface to elevate pleasure Sensation Change Sex Toys There again exists a completely different kind of sex toys which provide a different sensual experience while having sex rather than stimulation. There are a range of sleeves which you can put on the penis for different feelings during intercourse. Some of them are ring kind of thing that squeeze the bottom of the penis or constrict the scrotum to provide erection and increase sensations.
You can also extend your penis or make them thick using some kind of sex toys which may assist you in giving your female partner extra sensation during sex. The assortment of lubricants available in the market aiding sex is worth mentioning. Also there are PVC & Polyurethane bed sheets that are oil proof & water proof for greasy or messy sex. Why Use A Sex Toy? Are the fingers, penis mouth, toungue, clitoris, vagina etc. not sufficient to have a pleasurable sex? If yes, then why should one use sex toys? Good question, but sex toys provide help you drive your imagination wild and most importantly give you variety in your sex life and that extra stimulation which is not possible in normal sex. And, we have still not talked about the therapeutic use like assistance in erection for people having difficulty in enjoying sex. Where To Start? For ice breakers you can try the simple vibrators and go on further with combination sex toys. If you enjoy the experience then move on to the more sophisticated ones.With time you will know what suits you more than others. Oh yes! Don’t forget…Sex is sex when you enjoy it, so go on satisfy yourself with that forbidden pleasure.”

Many people ask the question, how often do couples have sex, on average? Iif this question has been on your mind, welcome to the club! The quick answer to this question is, it depends! Every person has a different level of sexual need.

There is no right or wrong answer for frequency for a person or a couple. How often you desire sex is very personal. If you look at national averages for married couples, for example, then 1-2 times per week among married couples might be average. But for others who enjoy sexual activity every day, that might be much or too infrequent. Some people enjoy daily sexual expression, and some several times per day. There are many different factors that can affect your sex drive and your sexual behavior

Here are seven factors that can impact desire for sexual frequency:

1. How satisfying the sex is for both of you. If the sex is fantastic, you may enjoy yourself so much that you want more of it. In my experience working with couples, great sex can lead to even more great sex. Do you look to please yourself and your partner, or do you stop caring and trying? If the sex is not the greatest, then think of how you can make it a better experience for you, and talk with your partner about that. Then, put your plans into action. Dare to try new things. If you like them, you can do them again. If they don’t work at all, then just laugh and move on.
2. How well you are getting along. If you are fighting all the time, it may be difficult to connect sexually with one another or to be “in the mood” for sex. Although some people swear that “make-up sex” after an argument is the hottest, I think that having a harmonious relationship outside of the bedroom can help your sex lives, (as long as there is chemistry between you, of course!)

3. Your physical health, including medications you take. Let’s face it. Sometimes, when you are not feeling well, being sexual may not be the first thing on your mind. In addition, some medications carry negative sexual side effects on desire or sexual performance. One example of this is some anti-depressants. You can read, research, and consult with your doctor if you notice changes in your desire or your performance when you take medications. Even so, research has shown that pleasurable sexual activity releases endorphins, and boosts the immune system, so maybe sex can be part of your health recovery plan!

4. Your ability to ‘get in the mood’ even when you’re not initially. This can go a long way in enhancing your relationship with your partner. Once you get going, you will probably both have fun! Plan activities that get you in the mood for lovemaking! Whether you enjoy a warm bath, candles, soft music, a sexy shopping experience, a body massage, or looking into your lover’s eyes, go for it!

5. The frequency you are used to. If you are like most people, you are a creature of habit. If you are in the habit of being sexual every day, then you are more likely to continue that habit. If you form new habits, such as watching 5 hours of TV per day, then you are more likely to focus on the TV instead of intimacy.

6. Your ability to communicate your desires and needs, and to get those met. How well do you know yourself sexually? Are you able to communicate what you like sexually to your partner? Many people have difficulty talking about sex openly because of social stigma and taboo. If you can learn to break through those barriers, you may find yourself more motivated to be sexual with your partner.

7. Your sexual compatibility. Whether or not you enjoy the same things sexually seems to be a big factor in whether or not you are satisfied and motivated sexually. For example, if you enjoy lots of kissing during lovemaking, while your partner is opposed to this, then you may not have such a great time together. Also, if your partner is very sexually adventurous and you are very uptight, you might both resist having sex together because of your different tastes. The best is to find someone who enjoys similar activities as you do, or enjoys everything, and you can have fun together.

Frequency in sex is much more a matter of your personal choice and your choice as a couple. Use the law of attraction in your favor. If you want more intimacy, feel, think, and take action in that direction. Many couples I see have different ideas about frequency, and need some assistance working through these issues. The important thing is to learn what you like and how to get your needs met. Decide on the frequency you want and go for that.

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Krista Bloom is a counselor and coach who inspires singles and couples to go from surviving to thriving. She is a clinical sexologist and sex educator that helps people to have healthier happier relationships, including their intimate lives. Check out her website at http://www.healingcouch.com. You can e-mail her questions or feeback or request an appointment at krista@healingcouch.com.