Worldwide, as we speak, men and women, young and old, are agonizing on their private secret: ‘I’m gay, and I can’t hide it anymore’. People who just want to live a life as a regular couple with someone of the same sex. Many of us have family and friends who consider homosexuality as ‘abnormal’ or ‘wrong’, so it’s natural for people who are gay to have reservations about telling those special to them how they feel.

The first thing to consider: who NEEDS to know? You aren’t obligated to tell anyone it doesn’t concern. Who you tell comes down to several things. Firstly, who do YOU feel you want to know? Who do you want to talk to about your love life, your attractions, your relationship ups and downs? These people will be close friends, possibly family, too.

Consider your current lifestyle. Do you have a partner now? If so, is it becoming more important to share them more in your daily life, with other people special to you? Often, people in love, straight or gay, want that person involved in their life more as a relationship grows. When in a relationship, we like to bring our partner to special occasions, celebrate, have support during the bad times. Maybe you wish to live together, and have realized that those around you will need help understanding this. Some people choose to tell their loved ones they are gay because they don’t wish to feel that they are ‘hiding’ anymore. These are all ‘turning points’ that will lead to a person wanting to let others in their life know that they are gay.

There are times when a person decides to wait for an easier time to tell loved ones, particularly family. It’s sad to admit, but oftentimes true that families can have a harder time dealing with the news that a family member is gay. Attending high school can make ‘coming out’ an extremely stressful situation. Students may be fearful of being teased or not accepted by their peers. No student should be treated badly because they are gay, obviously, but it consider this – if you are at school and aren’t dating, is it anyone else’s business? If you’re fortunate to have some very mature friends, of course, tell them if you think it will help you.

Some high school students find they prefer to hold off telling family until necessary, perhaps until they are older, have left school, or even have left home. This gives parents time to see that children have grown and matured, and it isn’t a ‘phase’ or something they can try to stop. There is of course, always the exception, and there are a lot more open minded parents around, whose reaction could surprise you.

Another common situation is homosexuality in heterosexual marriage. This can be extremely stressful for both husband and wife. One person feels trapped in a lifestyle that is no longer making them happy. A gay husband or wife can suffer a lot of guilt over the way they feel, to the extent of staying in the relationship as a way of ‘making it up’ to the other partner. If this is you, ask yourself: are you helping your husband or wife, in holding off dealing with your feelings and telling them? Not only are you prolonging your happiness, but theirs too. They’ll need time to deal with the marriage’s end, and you should make this as easy and painless as possible. If this means ending the marriage sooner, then it’s possibly the best way. The longer you stay married, the more the chances are your partner will grow more attached. If your spouse truly loves you, they’ll only want your happiness. Yes, they’ll miss you, want to stay married, but few people want to keep someone in a marriage if they’re unwilling.

Many gay people divorce their husbands or wives and stay best friends. But of all the people who need telling, husbands and wives rank highly! Or, at least, if you don’t tell them you are gay, they deserve an amicable split.

The next suggestion may sound trite, but still bears mentioning. Why not talk to a counselor? It can be ‘practise’ for telling your loved ones. What’s great about counselors, is they can help you work out what’s the right thing for you to do, and how to say it best.

Which brings us to the next question– what to say? Honestly? Whatever you want! But, a good guideline is to start with why you are telling them. If you are single, you might just want to say that you prefer dating people of the same sex. If you are in a relationship, you could just let the person you are telling know that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. It helps if you make a short simple statement to start with, then give the recipient a moment to process this news.

Some people you ‘come out’ to will say, ‘I knew it all along!’, ‘good for you!’ or, ‘so?’ These people are a breath of fresh air, and will make you wonder why you didn’t tell them sooner. Others will have questions, some may be angry or upset. Please remember, that although you need all the love and support from these people, that many people have been raised in families that taught homosexuality is ‘wrong’. Go in with a willingness to work through the feelings with your loved ones. For parents, it can be a shock, for the reason that they may feel scared about not having grandchildren, even if they accept homosexuality.

It isn’t acceptable, however, for anyone to abuse you. If this happens, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. Let tempers calm down, protect yourself from others’ anger. Realise people often calm down and accept things with time. Some people may never accept this, and it’ll be your decision how to handle those people.

Above all, be true to yourself! It’s your life, and you’re the one living it. As mentioned, you may wish to wait, and there are many good reasons for doing this. However, there’ll come a time, when you’ll wish to live and love the way you want to. Take time, and you’ll always find a way. If you know who you want to inform you are gay and why, you’re halfway there! All there is to do now is to wish you the best of luck. People can surprise you with their acceptance, and people who are gay are often overwhelmed by the freedom this experience can bring.

Sharon is the owner of the free dating site unlocklove.com

There are different views on dating for men and women. Many of them think of their perfect partner as something completely different from what someone else would. This is not unusual because all people are different. There are no two people that think exactly the same and this is true with relationships as well.

There have been many studies done to try and figure out what a woman wants in a man and the other way around. This is not exact science and there are many things to consider when thinking about it. It really boils down to the person and what they want to have in a relationship with a partner. Do they want to have a serious relationship that will turn into marriage down the road? Is this just a fling that will fade after a while? These are all things that people will ask themselves when they are in a relationship of any kind.

Many women think they know what they want and instead they go after something completely different. This is not uncommon and it is usually the way that a woman truly figures out what they want and need in a man. Every man has a different personality and there are certain women that only want a certain “quality” of man.

1) What they want for their love life

Women want different things when it comes to their love life and the man of their dreams. It is no lie that every woman wants to have a sensitive man that will fulfill all of her needs both physically and emotionally as well.

However, it is also true that a great sex life is one of the most important keys to a great relationship. There are some women that have broken it off with a man because of the sex and either lack of it or for lack of satisfaction.

Most women think of their man in many different ways when it comes to the lover personality that they have. Many women want their guy to have a bad boy sense about him. This will excite the woman and get their love life off to a heated start. Adventure is a great factor to have in any relationship for sex and romance. He should be a seducer but not slimy. Dirty talk is fine to a point but there is no need to be vulgar. Most women want someone to move them both physically and emotionally and add some energy and even some complexity to the relationship.

2) What women want in dating?

Most women want to have the perfect date. This can include anything from an energetic night out on the town to a romantic dinner for two at home. Most importantly woman want to be treated with respect and dignity.

No woman or man for that matter wants to be treated like a possession. They may want to be pampered and spoiled a little but they do not want to be treated like a child or made to feel incompetent. This is a very important thing to many women and will not want the guy to do too much for them and at the same time they will want him to show courtesy and use their gentleman skills. They just want to have a regular guy that will love them for who they are and not want anything buy love in return.

There are some women that just want to find a great guy that will treat her good and spend the rest of her life with him, while there are others that will go the distance to find someone that is successful and provides them with a good life. They are going to want the passion and the great kisses as well as guy that will go to the ends of the earth for them no matter what they ask.

3) What a woman should say on a date

Many times a woman will feel a little shy or embarrassed on a first date. They will not know what to say or how to act with a guy. When this is the case, they may seem a little stuck up or not interested. It is important to make sure that you are acting like yourself and let your true personality shine through.

Never act fake on a date. You do not want to be someone that you are not. Make sure that you ask the questions that you want to know so that you are getting to know the guy better. This will help you understand if you want to continue the relationship or if you are wasting your time. Do not be afraid to let yourself go and find out what you came there to do.

You should never get too attached in the first few dates. You will want to make sure that you are not letting your guard down to quickly. You are not expected to fall in love over night and you do not want to scare the guy off with those three little words that make most men run away screaming, I LOVE YOU! These are the words that can end a relationship before it even begins.

4) Keep your independence

It is important to stay true to yourself and keep your self-regard. You will want to make sure that you are having fun but do not get too close to the point that you are letting your emotions take over your brain. You need to stay focused and remember what you want and go after it. Be true to yourself and make sure that you are keeping your independence and your self-respect.

Finding a man should not mean sacrificing your independence your own life dreams and goals. Remember to have fun and keep an open mind and you will find the perfect man to spend the rest of your days with.

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Building rapport with a woman is vital to creating attraction within her. Without it, a conversation can become stale. Ultimately engaging a woman in a boring discussion will make her quickly find somebody else to talk to.

But there is an easy way you can create a dynamic conversation which will engage a woman and quickly build rapport. Here are six easy ways you can do this:

1- Have genuine curiosity about her

Every woman is different. Use your conversation to open her up and find out what makes her unique.

By taking a genuine interest in a woman and her life, you’ll discover there is a lot to talk about.

2- Have fun with her and the conversation

When you’re talking to a woman, make sure you’re in a fun and flirtatious mood. By honestly enjoying yourself, it’ll be a lot easier to get her to open up and find you more interesting.

3- Master the art of listening

One common complaint from women is how guys never listen to them. You can easily put the reputation to rest if you listen to everything she tells you.

In addition, by paying attention to what she talks about, it’ll become easy to pick up on conversation threads and lead them towards *interesting* topics.

4- Bring sexuality and flirting into the conversation

Don’t make the mistake of not discussing sex or flirting with a woman when you first start talking to her. This is a bad move, because avoiding the topic will make it harder to build *chemistry* with her.

Use this opportunity to talk about sex in a funny manner and flirt with her shamelessly.

5- Bring up off the wall questions and silly topics

Having a sense of humor when you’re talking to a woman is a great way to build rapport. Don’t afraid to bring up funny stories or ask her slightly off-beat questions.

6- Ask her opinion on different topics

When you ask a woman’s opinion, you’re practically giving her license to do most of the talking. You can really get the ball rolling if you ask her opinions on certain things like current events, work, hobbies, sex, family and relationships.

One bit of caution!

Stay away from hot points like religion, politics, abortion, etc. The last thing you want to do is get into a heated debate.

Any conversation with a woman should be done in a fun and flirtatious manner. In other words, it shouldn’t be like a job interview.

If you learn to relax and implement the six tips I provided in this article, you’ll have no problem building rapport and attraction with any woman.
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