For your partner to enjoy great sex you have to understand that what women want, is not always what men believe they want.

Great sex for women is a combination of both mental and physical stimulation.

Both areas need to be targeted, for a women to achieve satisfaction or orgasm.

If you don’t make the mistakes below, you and your partner will enjoy better sex together, or great sex!

1. Kissing

90% of women in a recent poll claimed they did not get enough French kissing.

For women it is one of the most sensual and personal things you can do, to express passion, desire and love, so always make sure you start with some kissing to set the mood.

2. Not Enough Foreplay

Men are more easily aroused than women, women need far more foreplay.

If your idea of foreplay is around 5 minutes, you need to think again and target 30 minutes or more, which leads onto the next point.

3. Neglecting key erogenous zones

There are the obvious erogenous zones to target, however there are many that are neglected, here are just some of them.

The neck – The nape of the neck is one of the most sensitive areas for any women and if it’s kissed and nibbled, your partner will be highly aroused.

The Buttocks – What women is not sensitive about her buttocks?

Most are and many are extremely self conscious about it.

By kissing it, squeezing it and telling your partner how much you love it, you will make her feel relaxed and confident.

The inner thighs – Before heading for the obvious region, pause at the inner thighs and tease your partner. The area is sensitive and the expectation of what may come next is highly arousing!

The hair and ears – Many women simply love having their hair being brushed and played with and its highly sesitive. The ears are a mass of sensitive nerve endings, that if targeted will be highly appreciated.

There are other erogenous zones and the above are just a few examples – try and target all the above and others for a complete sexual experience.

4. Coming to soon

Many men have this problem and it’s suprisingly common.

In most instances the solution is simple:

Slow down and also learn to control your breathing!

We have written on how to last longer in bed in other articles and it far easier to achieve sexual control, than many men think.

5. Trying complicated positions

You’ve seen it in a porn movie and think lets try it!

However a complicated position where you need to spend all your concentration just to try and hold the position is not erotic at all.

Sexual positions should allow you to concentrate on the sensation, NOT The act itself.

There are around 4 positions that are known as the best positions for sex and you need to know what they are. They are mentioned in the ancient works of the Kama Sutra and the Perfumed garden - if you don’t know what they are look them up.

6. Not using the power of words

Sex is not a place for silence – We express ourselves with words in everyday life and sex is no different.

Tell your partner how much you are enjoying sex and how much you desire them.

You also need to communicate to find out what your partner likes – sex without talking and expressing yourself, is simply cold and unemotional - sex without emotion and communication, will never be great sex, so learn the power of sexual communication.

7. When its over its over

So you have finished the act and you wander off and make a coffee, or out the door, this will not be appreciated.

Sex is a coming together of bodies, but it’s also the coming together of spirit and you need to express your bond with your partner after sex has finished to complete the experience.

Hold her, tell you enjoyed it and be affectionate.

8. Lack of romance

What women doesn’t like being given flowers or taken for a surprise dinner?

Not many!

Use it to your advantage, to set the mood and surprise your partner.

If you make an effort and add a little romance, you will reap the dividends later.

Most women want a considerate lover and someone who makes an effort and this does not mean just in the bedroom. Adding a touch of romance to your relationship will mean that you are setting a mood for sex to.

So there you have it, 8 common errors made by men in terms of sexual mistakes.

The good news is they are all easy to correct and if you don’t make them, you will enjoy better sex and a more fulfilling relationship.

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Do you have difficulty with oral sex? Here are some pointers in clear English that can help your performance with women and this often-tricky sexual activity.

Firstly, do not perform oral sex if you are uncomfortable. Many men do not enjoy performing oral sex for a variety of reasons. If you do not enjoy it, then I would recommend that you avoid this type of sexual activity. Women can often tell if a man is not enjoying the performance of oral sex. There are many good options to oral sex that can stimulate a woman without the performance of oral sex, but they will not be covered here.

Secondly, wash your hands. If your partner is clean, you should be too. Dirty hands are often the cause of yeast infections and vaginal irritation. When you begin performing oral sex, gentle massage with your fingers can get things going.

There are many different ways to perform oral sex, and women are often reluctant to tell you if you are performing it incorrectly. Stimulation of the clitoris is very important. The clitoris is a small nubby organ just above the opening of the vagina. It is akin to the penis in sensitivity and full of nerve endings. Be very gentle, because forceful stimulation of the clitoris can initially be painful. However, many women cannot climax without clitoral stimulation. Try different methods. Gentle suckling or licking with the mouth can have a very pleasurable effect.

Next, try insertion of a few fingers into the vagina. Tongue insertion is generally exciting, but the tongue is often not large or thick enough to cause the woman to climax. Penis or finger insertion is more effective. Pinching the exterior of the vaginal lips, (like pinching the top of a taco shell together) can also be very pleasurable. Massage on the interior thighs has a very pleasurable feel for many women, too, and will often be the precursor to a successful climax. I hope these pointers have been helpful. Remember, be open with your partner and enjoy all your sexual experiences.

Christie Pinheiro lives in Northern California with her husband, children, and two spoiled cats. She is a published writer, and earned her advanced degree from San Jose State University.

Cunnilingus has the potential to give women immense satisfaction and highly satisfying orgasms if performed correctly. Many women actually find that they can climax easier from Cunnilingus than full sexual intercourse.

To learn how to perform cunnilingus takes some practice, but anyone can become skilled in the art of oral satisfaction and we have outlined some tips below to help.

Oral Techniques

Starting oral sex

To commence cunnilingus try the following:

Lick your partner’s vaginal entrance up her clitoris.

Then follow the outer edges of the vagina.

Make sure you cover both sides.

Going up and down each side this is a great way to start oral sex and get your partner relaxed for further pleasure.

The Labial

Hold the two parts together and make sure you do this gently with your lips.

Next run your tongue between the inner and outer labia, one side at a time and then repeat this motion.

Inside the vagina – Tongue intercourse

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina are located at the opening and this sensitivity extends a couple of inches inside.

When performing cunnilingus target these areas.

Insert your tongue into the vagina.

Probe with your tongue then try licking with circular motions and try flicks with your tongue as well.

Spread the outer vaginal lips gently apart with your fingers.

With your tongue stiff and pointed try licking and flicking the tongue across your partners clitoris and also
insert it into the vagina.

A word of caution

Go gently with the above.

Many women can be very sensitive and you should ask for direction about how hard you go when doing this.

Sucking

Expose the clitoris by spreading her lips and next expose the hood.

Take the clitoris in your mouth gently and suck it.

Let the clitoris go and then repeat again.

This is a huge turn on for most women and also adds the element of frustration to highlight the pleasure.

The A – B – C Technique

Spell the alphabet when performing cunnilingus with your tongue.

This gives the tongue a variety of directions that it can go in and this variety can be a huge turn on.

You don’t just use A – B – C use all the letters and ask which ones she finds the most exciting and keep them in mind for next time.

The exact technique for giving pleasure with cunnilingus will vary from woman to woman and the above is just a blueprint for you to use and explore with your partner

The key to finding exactly what your partner wants form cunnilingus is to communicate with her – Ask her what she wants, how she likes it and what is giving her pleasure.

Other points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus more satisfying for your partner are:

1. Make sure your mouth is moist

Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can, so that it is as moist as possible – Never use a dry tongue.

2. Don’t go for the clitoris straightaway.

Make sure your partner is relaxed and aroused.

Try kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area after some general foreplay and then work your way slowly to the clitoris.

3. Variety is the key.

If you repeat the same technique your partner will quickly become insensitive to it.

Keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus is essential as it is in all sexual acts as it adds to the excitement and anticipation.

4. Use your fingers as well

You can use your fingers in association with cunnilingus.

Try inserting a finger or two into her vagina as your partner becomes more aroused.

Cunnilingus is one of the most satisfying sexual experiences for women and you can do it correctly and
give your partner mind blowing orgasms with a little practice and direction from your partner.
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